--- title: "Guides for Men | FrankTalk Therapy" description: "Plain, adult guides on ejaculation timing, arousal control, and pelvic floor training, written by Paul R. Nelson, Licensed Mental Health Counselor." lang: en json-ld: | [ { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@type": "Person", "name": "Paul R. 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These guides are neither. They explain what is actually happening in the body, what the research supports, what you can practice on your own, and where professional help earns its keep. No euphemism, no scare tactics, no promises nobody can make. They are written by Paul R. Nelson, Licensed Mental Health Counselor (NY), Licensed Professional Counselor (CT), AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator, whose practice is men's sexual health. If you would rather read about a specific concern than a technique, start with [What We Help With](/specialties). ### How to Last Longer in Bed The full picture: what 'too fast' actually means, the techniques that work, the anxiety loop, and what medication does and does not do. [Read the guide](/guides/how-to-last-longer-in-bed) ### How Long Do Men Actually Last? What the research on ejaculation latency really shows, and why the number most men imagine is wrong. [Read the guide](/guides/how-long-do-men-actually-last) ### The Start-Stop Technique Where it came from, exactly how to practice it solo and with a partner, and the mistakes that stall progress. [Read the guide](/guides/start-stop-technique) ### The Squeeze Technique How it works, how it differs from start-stop, and how to choose between the two. [Read the guide](/guides/squeeze-technique) ### Pelvic Floor Training for Men What those muscles do in erection and ejaculation, how to find them, and how to train without overdoing it. [Read the guide](/guides/pelvic-floor-training-for-men) ### Peyronie's Disease Treatment Options Traction, oral agents, injections and surgery, who provides each, and the sexual side none of them address. [Read the guide](/guides/peyronies-disease-treatment) ### Pentoxifylline for Peyronie's Disease What it is, why it gets discussed, what the evidence supports, and why it is a urologist's off-label decision. [Read the guide](/guides/pentoxifylline-for-peyronies) ### Penile Traction Therapy for Peyronie's The mechanical rationale, realistic expectations, and why sticking with a months-long daily protocol is the hard part. [Read the guide](/guides/penile-traction-therapy) ### Penile Traction Devices, Compared Rod-based, vacuum-based and low-profile designs compared by category, plus a plain warning about online marketing. [Read the guide](/guides/traction-devices-compared) ### Sex With Peyronie's Disease Positions and adaptation, pain, what to tell a partner, and when avoidance becomes the bigger problem than the curve. [Read the guide](/guides/sex-with-peyronies) ### Peyronie's and Erectile Dysfunction Why the two travel together, which is driving which, and why straightening a curve often leaves the ED behind. [Read the guide](/guides/peyronies-and-erectile-dysfunction) ### Why Can't I Finish? A plain entry point for men who stay hard, last a long time, and cannot reach orgasm with a partner. [Read the guide](/guides/why-cant-i-finish) ### Curing Delayed Ejaculation What a cure realistically means, why identifying the cause matters more than any technique, and what changes outcomes. [Read the guide](/guides/curing-delayed-ejaculation) ### Delayed Ejaculation Treatment Options The full landscape: medication review, behavioral work, partner involvement, and what to try first. [Read the guide](/guides/delayed-ejaculation-treatment-options) ### Idiosyncratic Masturbation and Delayed Ejaculation The cause almost nobody names publicly, why partnered sex cannot reach the threshold, and how retraining works. [Read the guide](/guides/idiosyncratic-masturbation) ### SSRIs and Delayed Orgasm The most common reversible cause, and why any medication change belongs with your prescriber. [Read the guide](/guides/ssris-and-delayed-orgasm) ### Cabergoline and Delayed Ejaculation What it is, why it comes up, what the evidence supports, and why prescribing is a physician's decision. [Read the guide](/guides/cabergoline-for-delayed-ejaculation) ### Kegels for Delayed Ejaculation Why pelvic floor work cuts both ways here, when it helps, and when more squeezing makes things worse. [Read the guide](/guides/kegels-for-delayed-ejaculation) ### Is Delayed Ejaculation Permanent? Honest prognosis, broken down by cause: medication, learned patterns, anxiety, and medical factors. [Read the guide](/guides/is-delayed-ejaculation-permanent) ### Sexual Therapy for Erectile Dysfunction What sex therapy for ED involves, when it is the right call alongside medication, and what a first session looks like. [Read the guide](/guides/sexual-therapy-for-erectile-dysfunction) ### Hypertension and Erectile Dysfunction Why ED is often the first visible sign of vascular disease, and why that makes a doctor visit urgent rather than optional. [Read the guide](/guides/hypertension-and-erectile-dysfunction) ### Medications That Cause ED Antihypertensives, antidepressants, finasteride and others, and why the conversation belongs with your prescriber. [Read the guide](/guides/medications-that-cause-erectile-dysfunction) ### Shockwave Therapy for ED What it is, what the evidence supports and does not, who provides it, and how to read aggressive clinic marketing. [Read the guide](/guides/shockwave-therapy-for-erectile-dysfunction) ### Vacuum Pumps for Erectile Dysfunction How they work, who they suit, safe use, and their real role in rehabilitation after prostate surgery. [Read the guide](/guides/vacuum-pumps-for-erectile-dysfunction) ### Beetroot Juice and Erectile Dysfunction A real mechanism, dietary nitrate and nitric oxide, that still does not do what the internet claims. [Read the guide](/guides/beetroot-juice-and-erectile-dysfunction) ### Erectile Dysfunction Gummies An unregulated category, and the documented danger of undisclosed prescription ingredients with heart medication. [Read the guide](/guides/erectile-dysfunction-gummies) ### Baking Soda and Erectile Dysfunction No credible evidence, where the claim came from, and what the search is usually really about. [Read the guide](/guides/baking-soda-and-erectile-dysfunction) ### Vicks VapoRub and Erectile Dysfunction Why it does nothing for erections, and the genuine risk of putting a mentholated topical on genital skin. [Read the guide](/guides/vicks-vaporub-and-erectile-dysfunction) ### Does Weed Cause Erectile Dysfunction? What the evidence says, why dose and frequency matter, and the anxiety interaction nobody mentions. [Read the guide](/guides/does-weed-cause-erectile-dysfunction) ### Retrograde Ejaculation Semen going into the bladder instead of out. Why it happens, what it means for fertility, and why it feels bigger than it is. [Read the guide](/guides/retrograde-ejaculation) Get Started ## Reading helps. Working on it helps more. Sessions are available to men in New York and Connecticut. Private, direct, and you do not have to explain yourself first. 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