Sex Therapy

What is Sex Therapy?

Sex therapy is usually a type of medium to long-term psychotherapy which helps individuals and couples struggling with sexual challenges and feelings. If you're feeling overwhelmed and need help, therapy might be what you need.

The focus of Franktalk therapy is men who are dealing with distress about sexual function issues whether they are caused by physiological or psychological problems. Physiological causes may be surgeries, illnesses, diseases, or even age. Examples of psychological causes can include anxiety/depression, performance anxiety, relationship issues, or sexual confusion or orientation.

Sex therapy is often more than a couple sessions. It is goal oriented (we want to help solve your problems), but it allows us to take time to look at you as a whole person. We can explore your family history, your relationship to sexuality growing up, your relationship history, as well as experiences and traumas. If you are feeling overwhelmed and a bit lost and looking for help to sort out some confusing situations, therapy is likely what you are looking for.

Sex therapy usually includes sex education – but not the kind you learned in middle school! Sex education is a re-wiring and retraining of how we think and approach sex. Most of us learned about sex from teenagers and porn - both sources are completely wrong! Sex education is learning to make intentional choices about how we express our sexuality either alone or with a partner(s). We learn how to create a sexual reality based on who we are - not on a sequence of events we learned from porn.

It's important to remember that therapy needs to have concrete goals. This is far more than just talking about your feelings. Therapy is about finding solutions through creating new approaches and reframing thoughts and feelings.

If you are still deciding whether this is the kind of clinician you want, it may help to read what a sexual therapist for men actually does in the room, and how Paul's training and scope compare with other sources of help.

What men bring to Sex Therapy

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Some men arrive knowing they want ongoing sex therapy. Others want one expert read on the situation and a plan. Three questions will tell you which of the two is the better place to start.